Have people been telling you to stop being grouchy? Have your loved ones told you countless of times that grouchiness can be bad for you? Have you been dumped with advice after advice about how not be grouchy? Well, here is some good news for you. Recent research has concluded that grouchiness can actually be good for you! According to the research, a little grumpiness and moodiness can result in a creative spark within a person.
Puzzled? The research conducted an experiment in which more than a hundred creative individuals were to rate their moods at the start and end of each day. The positive mood at the start of the day showed day-long creativity as expected. However, individuals feeling grouchy or moody at the start of the day were even more productive as compared to the individuals who felt positive.
The negative moods such as grouchiness and moodiness can help you focus on things that need solutions and motivate you to act on them. When you are happy you tend to dismiss and neglect things. However, when you are feeling grouchy, you focus on all the details clearly which helps you to find more effective solutions for the problem. Once you start focusing on the problem, as well as its solution and work your way gradually to sort out that problem, your mood will automatically start improving. This also makes way for more creative and innovative ideas.
How it Works
Optimism is known to have a positive effect on individuals when they face short term problems. However, the long term effects are not so bright. Cheerful people end up taking unnecessary risks as their optimism clouds their judgment and they are more unlikely to think about the consequences. Grouchy people face difficult situations and hurdles more naturally. They are able to cope with the negatives more effectively as they see the problems, their possible solutions and outcomes more clearly. They are less gullible and better at decision making as compared to the cheerful people.
Cheerful people are more gullible and rely more on intuition, while, grouchy people are less gullible and rely on their analytical thinking. Negative emotions alerts the individual about the problem and the need to focus while positive emotions works in an opposite way and encourage a more freewheel approach.
Some people also force themselves to be cheerful and smile all the time. This adds to the stress levels of the individuals facing the problem.
Tips on how to Turn Grouchiness to your Advantage
Here are a few tips that can help you turn your grouchiness in your advantage:
Stop People From Taking Advantage of You
- Your grouchiness can stop people from taking any advantage of you. When a person is taking you for granted, you can firmly tell them how you feel.
- Understand this is a choice. You can either let it keep on happening or act upon it.
- Being firm and forceful will deliver the message loud and clear.
Learn to Say ‘No’
- Usually people brand the individual who say ‘no’ as grouchy and rude. This is not the case. It is important that one learns to stop thinking about others all the time and think about themselves as well. Many a times it is more beneficial for you to say no.
- Many people will actually admire your determination and truthfulness. Don’t allow anyone to tell you that you are selfish. You have every right to say no to things you are not comfortable with or happy with.
- For example, if a friend keeps asking you for money insisting they will give it back but they never actually pay back ever, it is time you said no to that friend. Understand how wrong it is to just hand over hard earned money to someone who won’t pay you back. Boldly say ‘no’.
- Another example is, if your boss keeps asking you to do overtime work while your other colleagues go home on time, confront them with this unfairness. If you don’t say anything, you won’t be able to break free from the cycle.
Stand Up For Yourself
- Start utilizing your grouchy mood to stand up for yourself. Don’t let people push you around and tell you what you should do and what you shouldn’t. Use your grouchiness as your strength.
- People tend to manipulate or influence them and take advantage of them. Confidently and determinedly refusing them can further discourage such acts.
- Your temper can actually save you from being taken advantage of.
- Anger, grouchiness or moodiness can promote optimism and act as motivational forces. However, they can easily turn destructive if you don’t handle it properly. Remember negative emotions are not always bad and cheerfulness is not always good.
- Become more constructive when you are feeling very grouchy. Start the assignment or task you were meaning to begin. You will be able to focus more and think more clearly.
- Start going through each task in a sequential way. This will enable you to think thoroughly about the task at hand and come up with effective solutions for it.
Sort out Your Thoughts
- Start writing in a journal. This will help you to sort out your thoughts.
- List the times you have been grouchy and how you were able to become more productive. What did you thought and how did you come up with solutions.
- Jotting these things down will help you to train yourself in thinking in a more analytical manner and coming up with more effective solutions.
Grouchiness, sadness, anger, grumpiness, moodiness are negative emotions, true; but they can let you experience benefits too. They can teach you to think more clearly and come up with better solutions. It does not mean that you remain grouchy and grumpy all your life. The proper way to take advantage of these negative emotions is to learn how you think when you are experiencing these emotions. Try to think like that when you are in a normal mood. Create a balance between your emotions and learn to tame them so that you can use them to your own advantage.